Happy Valentine’s Day. Chocolate is not optional.
Periodically, on occasions like February 14, Hubby and I dig out the caulking gun and patch any cracks in the relationship; sometimes it takes running a long bead. Thankfully this time we only discovered a hairline fracture that was easily smoothed out with a mini staycation and our restaurant’s Valentine 2-fer.
For all you lovebirds out there, a little Tammy Wynette:
…And if you love him
Oh, be proud of him
Cause after all he’s just a man
…Stand by your man
And show the world you love him
Keep giving all the love you can
Stand by your man
It seems every couple of months my David comes home from work with the tale of a guy whose wife’s disregarding Tammy’s advice. These stories, and articles I read, are peppered with jargon like Mental cruelty. Neglect. Broken promises. Verbal abuse. Control freak.
The more I hear, the more I think Tammy’s right: Stand by your man. Why should he be singled out as requiring perfection? Everybody does this stuff: teens exhibit mental cruelty, friends neglect, parents have broken promises, siblings deliver verbal abuse, and employers are control freaks. If we bale on anybody who doesn’t cut the mustard, where would we end up? Alone. Or worse: unchanged.
Malachi 2:16 For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence — 1 Cor 7:27b Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed.
“What the world needs now, is love, sweet love.”
Yeah, yeah, I don’t know anybody’s marriage but mine. “No one knows what goes on behind closed doors.” But I’m a 29-year vet, so I’m qualified to surmise that all this jargon doesn’t constitute grounds for divorce. What are “grounds,” anyway? Used-up brown slime you toss into the trash.
Stand by your man: a great chorus hook; everybody remembers it. But there’s a little lyric in that song that we ought not miss: “…after all, he’s just a man.”