No for an Answer


“What part of “No” don’t you understand!!??!”

“Um… the “N” part?”

Amazing how a gentle, flowing conversation can be derailed by a two-letter word.

It comes in various translations: “I can’t do that.” … “Right now isn’t a good time.”  … “How about we do this instead?”  So the person rephrases the question.  (Some think it’s profitable to rephrase over and over–until you cave.)  Wouldn’t it be better to think like this? “Hm. That doesn’t fit their paradigm.  Lord, help me practice some SELF-control.”

I say… to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think

We’re quite diverse: men, women, young, old, varying personalities and backgrounds.  Plus, each of us is a work in progress.  Why on earth would we expect automatic compliance?  That unrealistic expectation brings unnecessary conflict, which can quickly accelerate.  By that time, pride has reared its ugly head, and somebody won’t recant.  It got gnarly in a hurry.

Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

Being cantankerous is childish, but it can’t be outgrown; we have to DIE to it.  Silence is golden.

Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.

Self control is more than merely  not  being violent, promiscuous, or drunk.  Self control is mostly exhibited in the Q&A—when the “A” is No.

Impulsive + Compulsive = Repulsive.  (This also goes for the responders: let us think before we contradict; we, too, can circumvent unnecessary conflict.)

Quenching compulsions is a practice that God uses to change us from the inside out.  Rather than SELF-control, it’s GOD‑control: peace and patience rather than stress and regret.

Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus… who… humbled himself

Some people persist in their demands so long they don’t even remember the original details.  I think of the elders who twisted words and changed venues, never accepting the fact that someone might contradict them.  They finally declared the Apostle Paul “a real pest and a fellow who stirs up dissension.”

Clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, for God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble.

Man’s ways are not God’s ways.  Winston Churchill said, “Don’t take no for an answer, never submit to failure.” Yup, that’s the world’s way.  Now, in the 21st Century, we’ve raised a generation that says, “Talk to the hand.”

I respond with a resounding, “NO!”  I don’t want to talk to the hand.  …I want to hold it.

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2 Responses to No for an Answer

  1. Tamz says:

    “I wanna hold your ha-a-a-a-a-a-and. I wanna hold your hand.” ‘o)

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