“Breaking Up is Hard to Do”


Don’t take your love…  !   What a beginning line that is.   DEEP.

Neil was right: breaking up is difficult.  While some relationships start with a phone call—and end that way too—others aren’t so cut-and-dried: “Never Can Say Goodbye.”

I submit that dissolving connections is not what we are designed for.

Think of all that we’ve been through,
Breaking up is hard to do.

The other day I heard of a break-up.  This person had moved away, so we’ve been out of touch (and never met the companion).  Nonetheless, it pained me to hear the news.  I’ve been there (on both ends of such dissolutions), and know full well the mesh-ball of emotions: relief and yet anxiety; freedom with confinement; giddiness and anger; vindication and conviction; hope tainted by sorrow.

Instead of breaking up I wish that we were making up again!

1 Cor 13:4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant

It’s not difficult to understand why break-ups mess with us over the long haul: we weren’t designed to dissolve, but to commune; not to destroy, but to build.  Do you remember that friend?  You think of them sometimes.

2 Chr 26:16a  But when he was strong, he grew proud, to his destruction.

No matter our current situation, and no matter the memory of trouble and pain, questions resonate:  “What would I do differently? …  Are there vestiges of unforgiveness I must vanquish?  …  I wonder how things are going for [_]?”

I like “Silly Love Songs.” They remind me that every smile is an investment in a soul; every hug could be a lifelong memory.  Relationships are the stuff with which God builds me.

Prov 13:10 Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.

As I lurch headlong into 2013, I am thinking of those long-lost loves—male and female, near and far.  By God’s grace the pain wanes; love is above.

2 Cor 13:1 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

With God’s help, I will cherish and nurture the connections I have; I won’t dissolve, I will commune.  I won’t destroy, I’ll build.  The alternative hurts too much—and for too long.

 If you go then I’ll be blue,
‘Cause breaking up his hard to do.
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2 Responses to “Breaking Up is Hard to Do”

  1. Janelle says:

    Ah, what a timely post. Thank you for the encouragement!

  2. lolahbf says:

    “Relationships are the stuff with which God builds me.”

    I never thought of it like that. Thanks.

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