Here’s part of a Facebook thread:
—– RG: “…someone dealing with people unwilling to resolve past hurts. What to do with unresolved anger is a hard issue. It is so hard to forgive when it is not validated.”
—– EV: “It’s like drinking poison & hoping the other person will die…”
—– AG: “It is hard, indeed. However, it is far more destructive to hold onto the hurt… The truth is we have no control over what other people do or won’t do…”
Even knowing Jesus’ example, forgiving “when it was not validated” is hard. In the flesh, it’s impossible; we must submit to the Holy Spirit: no grudges; no vengeance. “It means letting go of our need to get even.” If we are in Christ, God forgave us; we are to do the same—without requiring anybody to grovel.
—–Peter: “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me?…” —–The Lord: “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”
—–The landlord: “ Should you not also have had mercy on your fellow slave, in the same way that I had mercy on you?”… [and he] handed him over to the torturers…
—–The Lord: “My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart.”
God wants us to forgive; He knows sometimes we don’t do it completely. Thankfully, our salvation does not depend on it—but on Christ’s righteousness.
Offenses are inevitable. Just deal. What resentment do you carry? Let it go. Jesus will help. PRAY to that end.
I like this quote from another blogger (Kadu): “Understand this: whether you like it or not, over time, you will stop feeling the pain, so why hold on to something that’s going to go away anyway?”