“Never Can Say Goodbye”


“Never can say goodbye, no, no, no, no, now…”

Nobody likes good-byes.

If there’s somebody going away—someone we love enough to show up for the Bon Voyage—that’s pain. Even now, I remember my top three heart-wrenching departures: to a different city from Dad; Grandma’s unsuccessful surgery; my daughter’s wedding.

On the other hand, if someone’s “shoving off”, but (let’s face it) we don’t expect to be any the worse for it—yeah, about that—we usually aren’t even present for the parting.  A neighborhood Minute Mart grand opening (free corn dogs) holds the trump card.

In a few days I will say good-bye to someone I’ve grown quite fond of.  She promises to visit—but, well, if experience is the best teacher, I’m not sure I should leave the light burning.

The word “goodbye” is a dreadful word; it sounds so final.  But the classic substitutes don’t buffer the blow:  “Farewell.”  Really?  The fact that the person is leaving our circle of influence begs the question:  How could they possibly fare well?  [Ponder the Pompousness of that Pithy Platitude.]

As I remember various goodbyes, whether I blew them a kiss, or cried myself to sleep, I give thanks.  (Mostly for cell phones!)  But yes, it’s a rich blessing to consider the awesome thing that happened:  we got to know this fearfully and wonderfully made personality for awhile.  They brought something to the equation; hopefully, we brought something to theirs.  And in some miraculous way, this connection shifted our paradigm.  It might even be the bend in the road that changed a trajectory.

And—if there is love—it isn’t really adios.  We might just pass this way again.  (‘Funny how that happens.)  And, in each of us, if there’s faith [sincere Christian faith], the hiatus is temporary; a hiccup in eternity.  We “never can say goodbye.”


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2 Responses to “Never Can Say Goodbye”

  1. My Dad would never say ‘Good Bye’. He always said, Well, I’ll see you later’. Or simply, “I will see you later.”
    I asked him about that one time and he said, “You never know if you will see a person again on Earth or not. But chances are you will see them later.”
    That has stuck with me and I have always tried to practice it.

  2. elsiephoebe says:

    I like your dad. 🙂

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