Last week I set out my “Square Peg” theory (i.e., exit from inevitable failure). I wonder: Did you question my criteria? Think me one to abandon commitments? Assume I teach kids to be quitters? Perhaps you decided this means I even condone divorce?
To all of the above, hereby is heralded a resounding NO!
Face it: each of us is occasionally tempted to be a runaway: dismal news, daily grind, difficult people, declining economy, dozens of questions—can daunt and discourage even the daring. But we don’t easily dispose, discard, dump, desert, or ditch.
Now Hear This! I am a Christian. I am a pilgrim. I am fully aware it’s not about comfort. We weigh decisions, acknowledging the Lord. And, yes, this often calls for hanging in there: facing what we’ve got to face, and growing in the process.
A teenage runaway often shows faulty problem-solving skills: it’s a manipulative, knee-jerk Band-aid to avoid consequences, rules, stress, or embarrassment. We grownups know better—better to ask, “What can we do differently to solve this problem?” “How can we cultivate patience?” Sadly, our culture teaches the opposite: to use manipulation to achieve a sense of power. After that, however, the School of Hard Knocks teaches that this independence isn’t power after all; it brings a whole new set of problems.
Nonetheless, I stand behind my Square Peg Post… (pardon the pun). While there is much that a strong Christian can graciously endure—and should—there are also (yes, I’m going to say it) abusers. We ought not to be held captive by the prideful, destructive, reviling, the hyper-critical, irreconcilable, lying, self-loving, the power hungry. If long-term efforts prove to be of no avail (and there is not a holy covenant involved), sometimes a person’s got to do—what a person’s got to do.
But I will add this: Don’t just be a runaway.
End of Rant.

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3 Responses to Runaways

  1. missL says:

    I never thought about it that way, I thought I was the odd kid out for never trying to run away. But I’m a huge problem solver, I’m always wanting to get to the bottom of a problem and fix it. Cool post!

  2. Now, if there was just an obvious line in the sand to show us when our long-term efforts have been… long enough, that would make life SO much easier. 😉

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