In any situation, we can be free and safe. No one should tolerate ridiculous rules or chronic actions that undermine healthy relationships (within current parameters or outside the perimeter). No matter the perpetrator, we must make it clear we will not endure even **one** chronic abusive behavior. We’re talking about every sort of person, especially if they claim authority, such as these:
No matter what their position, no one should make hyper-stringent requirements or repeat certain actions such as these:
Failure to Admit Error
Lying / Deceit
Using others as leverage
Destruction of Property
Little Independent Time
Oppression / Control
Overstepping Bounds of Authority
Questions are Discouraged
Recording / Tracking
Repercussions if you Leave
Restricted Phone or Car
Restricted Reading or Media
Treatment like a servant
You are made in the image of God, and you can have safety and freedom. If any of these or other red flags is prevalent, be pro active! If you have made a vow or this otherwise involves family, remain involved—but insist on change; do not settle for the status quo. Get Biblical counsel. Find a comrade to help you, and immediately lay out serious consequences. Change is in order.
—–Prov. 17:14 ~ The beginning of strife is like letting out water, So abandon the quarrel before it breaks out.
—–Prov. 20:19 ~ He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, Therefore do not associate with a gossip.
—–Prov. 2:11-12 Discretion will guard you, Understanding will watch over you, To deliver you from the way of evil, From the man who speaks perverse things~
If, on the other hand you suffer such treatment but have no long-term commitment, and do not see marked and immediate improvement, consider changing your environment.
—–Prov. 22:24 ~ Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot‑tempered man
—–Prov. 14:7 ~ Leave the presence of a fool, Or you will not discern words of knowledge.
Either way, even one of the above consistent behaviors is unacceptable. Don’t accept it. Don’t live like that. It can be better. We All Can Have a Safe Place.