We All Can Have a Safe Place

In any situation, we can be free and safe. No one should tolerate ridiculous rules or chronic actions that undermine healthy relationships (within current parameters or outside the perimeter). No matter the perpetrator, we must make it clear we will not endure even **one** chronic abusive behavior. We’re talking about every sort of person, especially if they claim authority, such as these:

Relationships

Family member

Spouse

Boyfriend

Girlfriend

Job

Employer

Manager

Coworker

Security

Church

Pastor

Elder

Deacon

Ministry Leader

Organization

President

Leader

Officer

Elected official

School

Principal

Teacher

Coach

Helper

No matter what their position, no one should make hyper-stringent requirements or repeat certain actions such as these:

Cruelty

Discrimination

Failure to Admit Error

False Accusations

Hyper-criticism

Ignoring

Judgment

Lying / Deceit

Mistreatment

Never Apologizing

Unforgiveness

Using others as leverage

Vilifying others

Withheld Necessities

Withholding information

Physical Sin

Causing Fear

Destruction of Property

Immorality

Physical Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Theft

Violence

Ridiculous Restrictions

Forbidden Friendships

Isolation

Jealousy

Little Independent Time

Micro-management

Oppression / Control

Overstepping Bounds of Authority

Questions are Discouraged

Recording / Tracking

Repercussions if you Leave

Restricted Phone or Car

Restricted Reading or Media

Withheld Freedoms

Verbal Abuse

Belittling

Blaming

Disclosing Confidences

Disdain

Embarrassment

Harassment

Humiliation

Intimidation

Name-calling

Shaming

Strife

Tension

Threats

Treatment like a servant

Ultimatums

Yelling/Anger

You are made in the image of God, and you can have safety and freedom. If any of these or other red flags is prevalent, be pro active! If you have made a vow or this otherwise involves family, remain involved—but insist on change; do not settle for the status quo. Get Biblical counsel. Find a comrade to help you, and immediately lay out serious consequences. Change is in order.

—–Prov. 17:14 ~ The beginning of strife is like letting out water, So abandon the quarrel before it breaks out.

—–Prov. 20:19 ~ He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, Therefore do not associate with a gossip.

—–Prov. 2:11-12 Discretion will guard you, Understanding will watch over you, To deliver you from the way of evil, From the man who speaks perverse things~

If, on the other hand you suffer such treatment but have no long-term commitment, and do not see marked and immediate improvement, consider changing your environment.

—–Prov. 22:24 ~ Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot‑tempered man

—–Prov. 14:7 ~ Leave the presence of a fool, Or you will not discern words of knowledge.

Either way, even one of the above consistent behaviors is unacceptable. Don’t accept it. Don’t live like that. It can be better. We All Can Have a Safe Place.

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